The natural response when being attacked is to defend. We don’t have to learn how to defend, we automatically do it. It’s comes standard in all human makes and models. When we know we’re in the wrong, we feel the need to defend ourselves by trying to justify our actions. When we know we’re in the right, we feel the need to defend our reputation. We somehow have been taught that if we don’t defend ourselves we are admitting that we are in the wrong, that our silence is somehow an admission of our guilt.
Jesus certainly had every reason to defend himself in front of the inquisition and insurrection he was facing. He could have defended his actions and possibly avoided some of the beatings that he faced. But he remained silent. Choosing instead to trust his heavenly Father for the outcome.
Occasionally, defending ourselves might be the wise thing to do. Many times it’s wise to keep our mouth shut. Defending requires discernment as well as listening to the Holy Spirit. When should we defend ourselves and when should we remain silent? I think the answer is hidden in our motivation. If our desire is to elevate ourselves in a situation, it’s best to remain silent. If the situation elevates God and could potentially lead someone closer to God, it might be wise to defend your actions and explain why you did what you did.
Recently, I was in a situation where I could have easily defended my actions and was tempted to. I felt God telling me, “you don’t have to defend yourself, I got this one Mike.” I just made the conversation about listening and seeking to understand the other person. Sometimes, the other person isn’t looking for your defense, they are just looking to throw stones at you. By the way, you know a person is just wanting to throw stones when it is a one-sided conversation and there is not one question trying to understand your point of view. Proverbs 23:9 says this, “Don’t bother talking sense to fools; they’ll only poke fun at your words.(MSG)”
There is great freedom in not defending. There is freedom in allowing God to be in control and trusting him for the outcome. The next time you find yourself in a situation where you are tempted to defend yourself. Ask the question…will this elevate me or elevate God? Extend grace and trust your heavenly Father. He’s perfectly capable of handling it on his own.
